Depression and Motherhood – The Mom Club Few Talk About

Depression and Motherhood – The Mom Club Few Talk About

Today it is my pleasure to introduce you to my friend, author and board certified clinical neuropsychologist, Dr. Michelle Bengtson. Recently, I asked Dr. Michelle if she’d be willing to write a message for my mom-friends who are currently struggling with depression. Some of you know a bit of my experience with depression, as I shared snippets of my own dark journey in chapter 18 of Triggers. And so it is with an insider’s perspective that I fully endorse Dr. Michelle’s new book, Hope Prevails, and appreciate her ongoing support for moms. I pray you find courage and companionship as you journey through the dark and into the light of healing and hope. For hope truly does prevail!   Depression and Motherhood a guest post by Dr. Michelle Bengtson   “No one understands,” she whispered, as she brushed her hair off her face and accepted my offer of a tissue to dry her tears that gently flowed down her face.   “Oh, I think more people understand than you realize. The problem is that people just don’t feel comfortable talking about it unless they know others understand. But I do understand—I’ve been where you are.” I explained.   “You have? But you always look so joyful, and put together!”   “I am now, for the most part, but I still have to do the work to stay here.” I paused for a moment, taking a sip of my iced-tea, letting that sink in for a moment before continuing. “But I’ve gone through depression a couple of times in my life. I wouldn’t wish it on anyone. It was very dark. But each...

Do you feel you’ve lost yourself to motherhood?

When I wrote LIFE CREATIVE: INSPIRATION FOR TODAY’S RENAISSANCE MOM, with my dear friend Kelli Stuart, we set out to encourage creative women who feel they’ve lost themselves in this busy season of motherhood – painters and poets, writers and sculptures, actors, home decorators, seamstress’ and business owners, graphic designers, singers and bakers… Sweet friends, I know how deeply discouraging it can be to find yourself in the dark ages of motherhood – having lost touch with all the things you used to enjoy doing – all the things you used to enjoy about yourself!   (photo credit: Ruth Simons)   When moms lose themselves to motherhood, they tend to lose their tempers too. Like they have to fight to be heard.  But I hear you. When the dream come true of motherhood intersects all the other dreams in a woman’s life, it’s common to feel lost for a season. But you’re not lost – and neither are your gifts. God did a wonderful job when He created you in his delightfully creative image… and then gave you children. Though there is much sacrifice in this season, He is still the God who made you cleaver and creative, and cast those dreams into your heart. Think of each talent as a seed lying dormant beneath the earth. When springtime comes again, and it will come, and the sun warms the soil of your life, tender shoots will appear once more. A reawakening – A rebirth – A renaissance.     Until that time, it is our hope that you discover ways to fit pieces of your creative life into the everyday, ordinary moments of motherhood. The birthday...
When your teenager makes you angry

When your teenager makes you angry

Alright my dear friends, I have stepped over the edge of raising little people, into the unchartered waters of teens. Let me start by acknowledging that teenagers can bring a brand new set of triggers. Shoot! TEENAGERS CAN BE TRIGGERS! Strength cased in flesh, pushing for independence, sure they know more than we do and fast to tell us so… Of course, they are also WONDERFUL: interesting, thoughtful, and surprisingly unique. But what’s a mom and dad to do…     Here’s our story: It really began in those pre-teen years for us, when emotions flared (whether sad or angry or overwhelmed) and he turned suddenly to his room and tears flowed. I was thankful then that I had read books and blogs beforehand to prepare me for this sudden shift. Simply knowing it was coming helped prepare me for some of the changes. Not that I had all the answers, but I knew that my battle wasn’t with my emotionally explosive / fragile boy; this battle was to be fought at his side, teenager and parent. He needs me on his team, sometimes even holding his hand, as we walk through this transition into manhood together. As for the most practical advice I can give: When his moods swing and his demands are unrealistic, I remember what it’s like to have hormones shifting and shooting through my own body on a monthly bases. Sometimes I feel (and even act) like a crazy woman! Taking a look at my own hormonal tendencies helps me to parent form a place of grace. Of course, this is what the Christian life is like in all our relationships, inside...
Interview with a Renaissance Mom – Ruth Simons

Interview with a Renaissance Mom – Ruth Simons

Welcome back to our series: Interview with a Renaissance Mom. Today we’re featuring one of the mom-artists who helped start it all. Back when the book, Life Creative Inspiration for Today’s Renaissance Mom was just a dream, I reached out to artist Ruth Simons and asked for her thoughts on motherhood and creativity. This is what she wrote: “Never has there been a time like this for creative and artistic women to embrace the high calling of motherhood and the unique giftings God has given to each of us. There is indeed a movement– a renaissance — of the creative woman, the creative mom. I’m grateful that Wendy and Kelli have chosen to encourage this generation of women, right now, to embrace their God-given creativity to the glory of God, and to steward it well. This book is right on time.” And so it is with great joy that I introduce you to the art of Renaissance Mom, Ruth Simons.   photo credit: Elizabeth Wells Photography   Please introduce yourself to us by sharing who you are, where you live, and a bit about your kids. I’m Ruth Chou Simons. I’m married to Troy and we live in Albuquerque, NM with our six boys, ranging from age 3 to 14. I am the founder of GraceLaced, a blog I began almost 10 years ago that expanded into an online shoppe featuring my artwork. I share daily from Instagram and am looking forward to the release of my first published book this Fall.       At Life Creative we believe that art morphs as a woman transitions from season to season. This...
When Mom Needs a Good Cry… CRY OUT!

When Mom Needs a Good Cry… CRY OUT!

I drove clear across town multiple times yesterday, back and forth between homeschooling one and shuttling two. Wednesday’s are long. At day’s end we made it home and I made dinner, then we made our way out into the dark night for youth groups at church. Hours later, when the kids were finally tucked in bed, I turned my attention to the kitchen sink, piled high with dinner dishes, and I felt an old familiar pang. I felt like a victim again.     It’s been a while since I added to our ongoing “You are not a victim, you’re a mom” series. If the term resonates with you on a gut level, you may want to start here at the beginning of our journey out of the pit of a victim mentality and on to the high places of sweet surrender in this sacrificial role of motherhood. Ladies, God did a good job when he made you mom to your specific kids and placed you in your specific set of circumstances. Though the dishes and the laundry and the bills all pile up… your family needs you to keep putting one graceful foot in front of the other. As you plunge your hands into scourging sink water, remember your own hot refining and lean into the heat. When the suds rise up, remember the cleansing God offered 2,000 years ago, once for all. For you and me and our complaining hearts. Lean into the purity that belongs to you, clean and covered. Don’t fall into the mud again, dear mom; the mud of bitterness, of harsh nagging and complaints. I’ve...